Detour

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Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.
Friday is grocery day for me. Its the morning when I drop off my kindergartener at school, then dash off to at least three stores to buy items to replenish the supplies that my family of five have managed to use up for the week.
I start out every Friday with high energy. By noon? I’m wiped out.
So today wasn’t different from any other Friday. Except for one thing…
Instead of being able to take my normal route (from the regular grocery store to the Produce Junction), the road I would normally travel down was shut down.
I had to take a detour.
As I moved my car around the detour signs (so I could turn it around and go in the direction of the detour, I grumbled. I mumbled. I protested. In general, I had a classic spoiled brat attitude. My inner monologue sounded something like this:
there’s been construction all year long…why aren’t they done by now…people need to get their work done…I don’t want to go in this direction…how far do I have to drive around…how much time is this going to take me…I have stuff to do…
And blah, blah, blah….
Spoiled.
Well, let me tell you what happened when I took the darned detour.
I traveled down the road about 20 seconds before I spied, on the left side of the road, a brand new Produce Junction store. It was much closer in direction than the Produce Junction that I had PLANNED to drive to, thus saving me gas. I pulled into the parking lot and went in the store. The store was much cleaner and brighter than the one I was going to go to. It was quiet inside. The cashiers were friendly and helpful. I left with four bags bursting with fresh fruits and vegetables for less than $20.
When I loaded up the car, I immediately felt convicted of my spoiled attitude. There I was again. Thinking that I knew everything. Thinking I knew better. The truth was, I didn’t have a clue. Not a clue.
What’s the lesson here? Sometimes we just don’t know. Sometimes that detour thrown right in the middle of our lives is meant to guide us directly to something better. And sometimes that something better is fruitful and rich and a much better plan.
Dear reader, what detours have you seen in your life right now? Do you think they could lead to a blessing for you?

Holding Hands

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I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you. Do not be as the horse or as the mule which have no understanding, Whose trappings include bit and bridle to hold them in check,
otherwise they will not come near to you. ~Psalms 32:8-9

My daughter (a new kindergartener) does not like to hold hands. She’s a free spirit. She prefers to walk on her own. Sometimes this is fine. At other times, it gets on my nerves. Oh, like when I need to walk her across the street or keep her from stepping out in front of a bus.

So my non-hand-holding little chick was walking in front of me on the sidewalk as we made our way to her school building this morning. A few paces behind her, I watched her: the crisp navy blue school uniform, blue cable-knit sweater around her shoulders, and her fluffy curly ponytail held in place with a navy blue satin ribbon. I always smile when I see her walking on her own. She’s so independent, even at 5 years old. So sure she is in command of her world that she refuses to accept a hand to hold her on her way.

Well, we walked along and she decided to skip. Then she skipped faster. Then she decided to run. I jogged behind her. But before she could run too far, she tripped on a buckled area of the sidewalk and landed flat on her face.

I don’t have to tell you about the cry she let out as soon as she hit the ground.

She skipped. She ran. She fell. I didn’t force her to hold my hand. But I was right there to pick her up and dry her tears.

I believe that God is this way with us. He watches us. He stays close to us. But he’d never force us to stay by His side. Nevertheless He is right by our side to pick us up, wipe our tears, and hold us close.

That rough fall must have taught my daughter something because after I dusted her off and wiped her face, she grabbed my hand and kept it through the rest of our walk to school.

Beloved, this walk today made me ask myself: Am I also guilty of running too far ahead without holding on to my Father’s hand? Do I need to turn back and grab His hand and never let it go as I walk along life’s pathways?

Are you holding on to His hand today? Do you know how to reach out to the Lord for guidance and protection?

On Sowing and Reaping

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This past summer I started a herb garden on the side of our large backyard. I’d planned on gardening for quite a few years, but this year I finally took the plunge, cleared out the space, and bought some gardening soil and seeds.

During that first week after cleaning up the land and spreading out the new soil, I planted lavender, chives, cilantro, oregano, basil, and thyme. I guess you could say I was really ambitious. Truth is, I had no idea how any of these plants were going to fare in the summer heat. But…I was eager to get started and excited to see if I would LOVE gardening.

My daughter “Sweetie” was by my side as we sowed and watered the seeds. Nearly every day Sweetie would water the herb garden. Me? I kept the weeds, vines, and extra grasses at bay. But I mostly waited…

About three weeks after putting the seeds in, we saw tender green shoots coming up in the middle of the garden. After another week we plucked some leaves and tasted them. Oregano!!! We were overjoyed. The next week we plucked more oregano, chopped it up and put it in our lasagna casserole. The rest of our family was proud of us.

Well, what happened to the lavender, cilantro, chives, and basil? Nothing actually. None of those herbs grew. Well, almost none. We did see about six little sprigs of chives pop through the ground in July. By late July those chives withered away. Meanwhile, the oregano grew – green, leafy, tall, and abundant. Now in October, we have more oregano than we know what to do with. The plant has fully grown and flowered and Sweetie and I are planning to harvest and give the herb to our neighbors.

My little herb garden has taught me a powerful lesson on sowing and reaping. I sowed several different herbs. I only harvested one: oregano. But oh what a harvest it was (and is)!

Sometimes we put our talents and attention out there in the world. And well, sometimes nothing happens. But if we would look close enough, we can see that, yes, we’ve reaped something. As writer, I’ve worked on church newspapers, marketing material, novels, web sites, software instructions and more. The truth is that only one of those efforts has paid me handsomely: technical writing. I’ve learned to be grateful for the harvest, even though it’s not the most glamorous and does not include a byline.

In your life, what have you sown with your talents? What have you reaped? Are you grateful for your harvest?

The 10 Reasons Why I Need To Start Writing Like a Mothersucker

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  1. Because friends in my writing circle are starting to forget my name.
  2. Because I desire to create characters who are really based on people I know and hate but I’ll change the names to protect the guilty (I think).
  3. Because I’ve spent too much time away from it.
  4. Because its a healthy way in which to bury my anger, jealousy, rage, and neuroses (which, as quiet as is kept, is a reason why a lot of people write (see item #2 above)).
  5. Because I don’t know what I’d do with myself if I didn’t.
  6. Because I need to stop hiding from publishing (more on that later).
  7. Because I never did “get up offa that thang and shake ’til I feel better”.
  8. Because there’s not enough dark chocolate, line dancing, or good movies in the world to keep my attention like writing can.
  9. Because what else was I put on earth to do.
  10. Because I’ve got a bunch of new ideas – and what else is there to do with new plots and characters other than write.

The Best You That You Can Be

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“As simple as it sounds, we all must try to be the best person we can; by making the best choices, by making the most of the talents we’ve been given.” ~Mary Lou Retton

A few years back I completely made the biggest goof in the history of my weight loss journey. What goof was that? Thinking that I could sweat, run, and diet myself into a slim lean build. That was incredibly wrong. Why? Because no amount of work can give me a body type that I simply was not born to have.

I’m a curvy girl. I have curves in areas I’m not sure even the average woman has them. These curves may get bigger or smaller depending on how much I weigh, but the curves themselves do not and will not ever go away. But I kept dieting and exercising for years thinking that if I stayed focused, I’d suddenly wake up one day with the ability to wear skinny jeans and NOT stop traffic.

Okay, so, that never happened. I remained frustrated with my non-slim frame until 2008 when I read an article written about Serena Williams. Serena Williams, the tennis world champion and sister of the slim-built Venus Williams, talked candidly to a journalist about her own struggles with body acceptance. She said that as she grew up, she never quite understood why she couldn’t wear the clothes that Venus wore. That was until she realized that Venus had a long slim build, and she had a curvy muscular build. She is one of the best athletes in the world and is fit and healthy. She wears a size 12.

After reading that article I knew right then that I had to turn things around and kick things into high gear in order to be the best me that I wanted to be. Guess what? You can do it too! If you are struggling and you feel you aren’t achieving your weight loss goals, do the following:

  1. Be grateful for your own body. It is unique. It is wonderful. Accept and love it.
  2. Research and take online tests to figure out your body type.
  3. Tailor your workouts and your caloric intake to work best for your body type. There are many blogs and websites that can help you out with this.

Do you put on muscle easily? Great news for you! Strength training will skyrocket your metabolism and help you tone up and look awesome. Do you normally have a lean build but you’ve put on a few pounds? Good news for you as well! Those pounds may come off easily with some simple tweaks to your diet and an increase in cardio.

The bottom line is to love yourself and never beat yourself up for being what you are not. You can only be you. So go on and BE YOU! Learn about your own body, go on and embrace life, have a living plan that supports you being the best you that you can be!

 

Show Up

Even when the fruit isn’t there… show up.

Even when the critics tell you to quit… show up.

Even when you’re tired and tempted to throw in the towel… show up.

If this is a time of preparation for you (and not a time to start), do the work. Show up. Because what you are doing is sowing — that’s planting seeds, for you non-farmer folk — and though you may not reap them for some time, the work you’re doing is not pointless.

Stay the course, be brave, and your season will come.

~Jeff Goins, from JeffGoinsWriter